My Ladies, all these stuff that we normally embrace ourselves with, I think we are more than what we think we are and how we feel. I know our hearts are very soft and gullible but our hearts are also so strong than we ever imagined; the LORD said to the man that he will sweat before he gets the food to eat after he was cursed and casted out of the garden but He also said to the woman, "In pain shall you bring firth your children". Do you know what this mean? it is not just as we see it to be a curse but it also means that word designed the woman to have the ability to endure such pain.
I don't know the kind of pain that can be compared to the pain that the woman goes through in the labor ward, I guess the only pain that can exceed that pain is the pain that Christ went through for us on the cross. Let us do a little science.... the opening of an average woman is about 2 – 5inches and can stretch to about 5 – 8 inches during child birth. Yet they travail and bring forth and after that they just forget the pain and are filled with joy. Was it that the ability to endure that pain just came only when there was child birth? I think not so, it has been there all these while but they only realized and made use of it when the pain arose.
Women, you are strong oo, you have that ability to endure pain and let go of pain and quickly than men; but you have been listening to people way too much. That women are naturally soft, women are naturally emotional, women are naturally this and that, these are what people have studied and found out. Who do you also want to be? Will you be that emotional everyday so people will always step on you? Will you be always that soft that you become so afraid to step up and move up higher. Someone is suffering in marriage because of this and is not happy in the marriage, they have conceived the idea that women are naturally soft so even if they do the wrong thing and are corrected, the just become soft and so emotional not willing to do anything.
They begin to feel that their husbands don't love them and maltreats them, they will even start having this notion about men. But my sister, till you rule over that thing every day you will be offended. Have you forgotten what Isaac told Jacob? He said your brother has already taken the blessing and I have made him master over you but when you become restless you shall break his yoke (Genesis 27:39-40). We always say what men can do, women can do and do better right? And we should also understand that after God made the man and saw that it was not good for him to be alone, He took a rib from him and made the woman. Adam named her woman meaning she was draw out from man.
My sister, Mama, Aunty if you were taken out of man and Isaac told Esau that when you grow restless, he shall break that yoke then when you also become restless you can break certain yokes oo. Stop accepting certain facts that people normally spill about women and be who God wants you to be but not what naturally people think women should be. Ena everyday women are naturally soft, so a certain position belong to you but because you are competing with a guy, so you've let that position slip by; what are you talking about? Will you always be like this?
Ena women are naturally emotional so every little thing then you take it to heart and think about it saaa then depression sets it, every little thing then you take it to heart and you become angry, then everyday your heart is overworking. Let me kindly let you be aware that continuous anger can give you pressure and heart related diseases. Because when you are angry, your heart begins to pump more blood. Someone is following these notions that they have become very soft and very emotional that they don't feel the urge to move again. Someone is even in a relationship now, because of this they have been moving from relationship to relationship because they have not been able to rule over their emotions and self.
Proverbs 25:28 says that “A man that does not have control over his spirit is like a city broken down and without walls”. A man here is not just gender, because Jesus also said man ought always to pray. HE was not referring to men only but anyone made in the image of God. Women came from men thus subsets meaning they are still connected. So, Man here is anyone in the image of God not by gender. So, Solomon is saying, anyone who does not have dominion over his own spirit, emotions and feelings is like a city with broken walls. do you know what that means? It means everything at all can enter. Some of us guys too are very emotional, I tell you. small thing then wayj emotional, rule over it my boss just as I am also trying by the help of God to rule over mine.
Someone has become so emotional to the extent that they fall for everything, she knows that the guy will not help her but because she has become so soft and emotional for long, when she hears certain words, she just moves with this same person hurting her again. Have you noticed that in the Bible, the women who made the difference were those who didn't accept what was supposed to be norm and were willing to make a difference? Talk of the daughters of Zelophehad in the book of Numbers (Number 27:1-7). The law was that they were not supposed to inherit any property from their father. Because it was a law that if a man's son should inherit his properties and in case he has no sons, the sons of his brother should take it.
But if not, nothing goes to any daughter of his. But these women stood up to Moses, the Prophet that God speaks with "mouth to mouth". They refused to be ruled by that law and norm and presented their case before Moses, and when Moses sent their case to God; the LORD said "the daughters of Zelophehad speak right". WOW . I am sure there have been other women who have kept quiet over this issue and lost what was due them but these ladies decided to make a difference. God said they were right. it could mean that all these whiles, the LORD was waiting for someone to make that difference but no one was willing.
If women are naturally soft and emotional and all those stuffs, then this also happened by women so why not embrace this aspect and make that difference. Not to talk of the Woman who brought her daughter for Jesus to heal in Matthew (Matthew 15:21-28). Jesus told her directly that He came for the lost house of Israel, but she kept following calling Him son of David. The disciples told Jesus to send her away but she kept following, Jesus told her that the bread of the sons cannot be casted unto dogs, but she also replied that even if the masters eat, the dogs eat from the crumbs that falls from the table. This is persistency and women are also naturally that who why not embrace this one rather than what other are saying. Eiiiii don't forget Delilah too, Yeah, I know she did a bad thing but just look at the courage. Anytime she got the secret she applied it to see if it will work.
Samson kept on lying to her but she kept on pressing him with Words until she got what she wanted. Women have great determination, that is why in travailing, though they feel so much pain, they will not stop pushing till that baby is out. Why not embrace this nature as well, why are you always focused on that aspect that women are soft, emotional, they have to be this and that. Have you about forgotten Hannah? (1 Samuel 1:8-19). She was mocked and treated badly by Peninnah but she rather turned that pain into Prayer and she got what she wanted. That pain that you have been holding inside for a year, what has it been able to produce for you? My sister, Mummy, Auntie, Dear...if you used that pain as a stepping stone, things would have turned around. Women are this and that, WHO DOES GOD WANT YOU TO BE and WHO DO YOU WANT TO BE?
Make that difference, Rule over that anger, rule over that pain, rule over that bitterness, rule over those emotions, Push Dear, don't give up. Be like the daughters of Zelophehad who will break that law, who will not accept the norm. Be like the woman who brought her daughter to Jesus for healing, that no matter the hurtful words that people will throw at you, you will keep on pushing till you reach that which you desire. Be like women, that on the third day that even when Peter and the Others were inside, they woke up at dawn and went to the cemetery to rub ointment on the body of Jesus. You are not what people are saying, you are not like every other woman, you can decide to be like them but you can also decide to make a difference.
OH GOD, LET ME BECOME THE WOMAN YOU WANT ME TO BE OH GOD, GRANT ME GRACE TO RULE OVER MY SPIRIT AND EMOTIONS OH GOD, MAY I RECEIVE THE GRACE TO WRESTLE MAY I BE A BARRIER BREAKER AND A PACE SETTER I AM WHO GOD SAYS I AM AND NOT WHAT PEOPLE SAY WOMEN ARE IN THE NAME OF JESUS CHRIST AMEEEN